Many of us know how it feels to muster up the nerves to ask our crush out on a date or be flattered by someone who has feelings for us and wants to get to know us better. But, somehow, we pushed past the nerves and threw ourselves into the relationship headfirst.
Next thing we know, we discovered that we had strong feelings for this person and began thinking about how our life would be with them long term. However, over time, things began to change and unfortunately one day, the relationship came to a painful end.
It may have been because of infidelity, huge disagreements, financial issues, differences in priorities, lying, possessiveness, lack of respect, intimacy issues, or poor communication. Or something else?
Whatever the reason for the breakup, it helps to have someone in your life to encourage you, give you a safe space to heal, and give you the confidence to get back on the saddle again (date again) when the time is right.
Why Say Words of Encouragement?
Words of encouragement are a lifeline to a person who is hurting by motivating them not to give up. According to research, breakups among young people are the leading cause of psychological distress and a significant reason they commit suicide. In fact, breakups are said to be the number one cause of suicide among our younger population.
Being able to uplift a loved one, help them change their perspective, or even encourage them to get psychological help are great ways to do our part in helping someone heal after a painful breakup. Words of encouragement also bring comfort, like a breeze in the shade on a hot sunny day. They will boost a person's morale and affirm things they already know within themselves. Even if it is hard for them to see at the moment.
For example, I didn’t date until I was 18. My first real relationship was with someone who was about ten years older. The two of us hit it off at first and had a lot of fun making great memories together. However, my ex abruptly broke things off.
It was said that we were at different points in our lives, and after a few months, it was evident that we had mismatched priorities. I chose to try anything I could to make the relationship work. But it was over, and my heart was broken. I fell hard and quickly into the relationship because it was my first.
So, I played every scenario in my mind of ways the two of us could get back together. But dwelling on the pain of the breakup only added to it. I began to fear I would never have a relationship again and didn’t trust that I wouldn’t be heartbroken again. It wasn’t until my mom encouraged me by saying, “I know you are hurting. But what doesn’t kill you will make you stronger. Things will get better.”
The more I meditated on my mom’s comforting words, the more I began to see the light at the end of a dark, painful tunnel, believing that I could move on from this situation. As a result, I entered into relationships differently and handled breakups a lot better in the future.
Lastly, it would help if you said words of encouragement because breakups aren't always easy to navigate alone, whether it was a 4-month relationship or a 20-year marriage.
45 Words of Encouragement After a Painful Breakup
- There are other fish in the sea. Throw this one back and keep on fishing.
- After years in a bad relationship, you are finally free to find the love and happiness you have never had before.
- It hurts now, but you dodged a bullet with this one. Plus, your stress level has to be at an all-time low.
- Your relationship didn't fail; you gained experience in understanding what you want and don't want in a relationship.
- Take time to heal; there is no reason to rush into another relationship.
- Relationships are like coats. You outgrew that old one, so take it off and try on something new with a better fit.
- You tried to make it work, but you don’t deserve to be lied to and be with someone you can’t trust.
- Date yourself now. Get to know yourself again because your identity was not wrapped in your relationship with your ex.
- Being divorced doesn’t make you a failure. Instead, it makes you an expert at what doesn't work.
- Remember what it's like to live with her when you begin to fear living without her.
- So, you lost the house, and you don't have the best memories there anyway. Now you can have a fresh start in a new home filled with peace.
- Don’t stress over breaking up. It’s like you found the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.
- The two of you fought like cats and dogs. Now you can finally have some peace.
- This is your new beginning, like sunshine first thing in the morning. So get out and enjoy the sun.
- Your relationship was like a race. It was over a long time ago, but you are now crossing the finish line. So go on to the next race. You have a clean slate now.
Your relationship was like a race. It was over a long time ago, but you are now crossing the finish line. So go on to the next race. You have a clean slate now.”
- Just because your ex didn’t see your value doesn’t mean you don’t have great worth.
- Keep your head held high. You’re a good man/woman. So, move on and have a great life.
- They missed out on the best thing that ever happened to them. It's their loss, not yours.
- You two needed to break up so that you could find the right one. Don’t be sad.
- I didn't like them anyway! You were too good for them and deserved someone who really appreciates what you bring to the table.
- There is peace coming to the storm of your mind. No matter how strong the storm is, they don't last. But strong people do.
- This is a great time to regroup and enjoy being single. Then, when the time is right, you will date again.
- You're beautiful, intelligent, hardworking, and loyal. Lots of people find that attractive. It's unfortunate your ex took you for granted.
- This divorce is not the end of your story. There is a story that has never been told in your life and chapters that have not been written.
- You deserve to be happy. Don't tell yourself any different.
- I know you feel shattered after this breakup, but you will heal, and your broken pieces will come back together again.
- Forgive yourself! The breakup is not all on you. You have learned from your mistakes and will be able to make the right choices in the future.
- There are so many people in the world. So, the chances of picking the right one the first time around are less than one in a billion. Don't give up.
- Remember what your ex told you. He said you would never find anyone else like him. He's right, and that’s a good thing.
- I know it wasn’t easy, but I applaud you for having the courage to walk away from a horrible situation. I hope you know better is ahead of you than what is behind you.
- You think you have lost everything in the divorce, but you still have your self-respect.
- This breakup won’t break you! Instead, it has built you for something better.
This breakup won’t break you! Instead, it has built you for something better.”
- You are so lucky. Since the breakup, you now have the bed all to yourself. You no longer have to hear the snoring or fight over covers.
- Like a flower, you may have been stepped on by your ex. But you kept growing and reaching higher for what you truly deserved.
- I know you’ll bounce back. You are one of the most resilient people I know.
- If your ex can walk away from you, let them walk. It would be best to be with someone who wants to be with you.
- You are enough. Your ex just wanted too much. He wanted you and a lot of other women too. It's not your fault.
- I love you and hate to see you hurting. So, I will be right by your side if you need me.
- You are sad now, but your ex was not part of your destiny. You have a more fulfilling future waiting on you.
- Now that you have let go of that zero, you are free to connect with a hero.
- I can't believe someone would hurt you. Please don't waste your tears on someone who doesn't consider your feelings?
- Time heals all wounds. It may be cliché to say, but it is so true. You will get through this soon. Just keep holding on.
- I am here for you. Call me if you need to talk, and I will bring the ice cream. I love you.
- The song says, “Celebrate good time, come on!” Your ex is not worth those tears. We need to go out and celebrate your freedom. It will help you take your mind off what was and embrace what could be.
- She lost the best thing that ever happened to her. You are a catch for any woman to have. Don’t waste time crying over spilled milk.
Final Thoughts on Words of Encouragement After a Breakup
As the Neil Sedaka song says, “Breaking up is hard to do!” When we go through breakups, we experience a plethora of emotions that cause us to either reach back for what was, feel stagnant in what is or be afraid to take steps forward into the future.
So, like a tool in a toolbox, words of encouragement after a breakup becomes the thing that helps us break free from the chains of yesterday. They pull out the nails of heartbreak that are holding us down today, and are the sledgehammer that breaks downs the walls that block our view of a bright future.
Sometimes our friends or family members can see the best in us, even when we can't see it for ourselves. This happens because our view was clouded by the unfortunate circumstance of a painful breakup.
Lastly, remember a song from the movie Annie that says, “The sun will come out tomorrow. So, you gotta hang on ‘til tomorrow. Come what may. Tomorrow, tomorrow, I love you, tomorrow. You're always a day away!” You may be struggling and feeling emotional today, but tomorrow is a new day filled with new possibilities.
