When leasing an apartment, it is usually a benefit and relief to snag an available apartment on the bottom floor. It is easier to move furniture in and out without climbing the stairs to the upper floors.
However, the joys of the bottom floor may be short-lived when you are relaxing on the living room couch and hear loud booming noises from above your head. No, that is not an earthquake or the building falling around you. Instead, it is your upstairs neighbors stomping, running, or jumping around in their apartment.
Later, you realize that the neighbors are loud and do this consistently. You can’t help but wonder if your upstairs neighbors know they are being so noisy.
It could also be that they have children and are stomping around and disturbing your rest. Regardless, the feeling is that “I can't live like this, and something has to be done.”
What Makes Some People So Inconsiderate?
Inconsiderate people drain our spirits. We cannot completely stop thoughtless acts from happening, but we can control how we respond to them. The first step in figuring out what makes people so inconsiderate is to consider what makes them do what they do.
It is easy to think of how other people's actions affect us and respond quickly with the first knee-jerk reaction that comes to mind. However, it takes patience, acceptance, and empathy to slow down and take a more systematic approach to understanding the actions of others.
There are two types of inconsiderate people that you want to consider. First, some know they are selfish and don't care. Then, others act the way they do because of their daily stress. Whatever the situation is, their irritating behavior is not necessarily directed toward us.
Suppose a person already has a rude personality. In that case, they are harsh with everyone, not just you, so please don't take things personally. But if a person is having a bad day, they may have remorse for their actions and be more considerate of their feelings.
Remember, you may be the one experiencing the stomping, jumping, and running that ruins your peace… but you are not likely the cause.
Many people return rude behavior with rude behavior. When this occurs, you may provoke the rudeness coming your way. At that point, the best course of action is to avoid escalating the situation and steer it in a more positive direction. In that case, it is better to apologize to that person to diffuse the problem. Then, the two parties can begin to come to a thoughtful solution instead.
Home is supposed to be our safe space, a place to slow down and step away from the hustle and bustle of everyday life. Here are some steps to help you maintain the safety and sanity of your home.
11 Steps to Deal with Upstairs Neighbors Stomping & Making Noise
1. Plan ahead.
If you are sensitive to noise, you should anticipate that apartment walls are thin and upstairs neighbors may be noisy. Therefore, it may be best to secure a top-floor apartment in the beginning so that you won't be bothered by noise from above your head.
Just remember that you will still have to be conscious of the noises you may be making to disturb those below you. So, purchasing plush rugs for your floors to lessen the noise in respect for your downstairs neighbors is a thoughtful way to start.
2. Have a conversation with your neighbor.
As simple as it sounds, it may be one of the hardest things to do if you are non-confrontational. However, the peace you seek in your home may be realized after you converse honestly with your noisy neighbor.
Of course, it is an awkward way to say hello to a neighbor by complaining about the noises coming from their apartment. But you need to make them aware of the issue and allow them the opportunity to make things right.
Your neighbor may be unaware of how loud they are and decide to be more thoughtful about how their actions affect those around them (or underneath them). The key to conversing with your neighbor is to keep the conversational tone friendly and not aggressive.
You don’t have to invite your upstairs neighbor over for dinner, but a softer touch may be as easy as smiling when you see them and saying hello. This behavior can help cultivate a friendly and neighborly environment around the apartment complex.
If you do this, it could make things easier when you have to meet with them later. It won't hurt to ask them if you are being too loud downstairs. Then, the dialog may open up for you to share your concerns with them. Just remember that having a bad attitude will only make matters worse.
3. Tap on the ceiling.
A gentle tap on the ceiling with a mop handle can be a simple way to let your upstairs neighbor know you can hear them. If you have already talked with them about the noise coming from their apartment, your tap will remind them that they need to keep the noise down.
If you have yet to speak with them about how loud they are, they will get the hint after a while.
4. Wear earplugs.
Depending on the type of noise coming from upstairs, earplugs are an excellent choice for achieving some peace. Wear them in bed at night or when you want to relax during the day.
If you live in an older building, your neighbors upstairs may be unable to help with the noise. So, for your sanity, try earplugs. If they don't work, it's time to try something else.
5. Soundproof the ceiling.
With your landlord's approval, you may purchase and install some padded panels on your ceiling to lessen the noise from upstairs. In addition, if you are handy with electrical wiring, you can also find an acoustic lighting fixture that may serve as a savior when tolerating your noisy neighbors.
This won't completely stop the noise from over your head but will deaden it, making the sounds more tolerable in your downstairs apartment.
6. Use the art of compromise to agree with your neighbor.
The noise coming from upstairs may be unavoidable, so you and your upstairs neighbor may have to devise a compromise. For instance, if they are participating in a daily activity such as aerobics, weightlifting, or playing loud music, you can talk with them about the best time of day to do it.
You'd be surprised how agreeable and compromising your upstairs neighbor may be to keep the peace in the apartment complex.
7. Create a paper trail.
If you have tried communicating with your upstairs neighbor and the noise continues, it may be time to start a paper trail. Take note of the dates and times of day that your neighbor is the loudest.
This may not be your favorite option and could get annoying. However, you'll find this helpful evidence when taking additional steps to maintain your sanity and claim peace.
8. Talk with your other neighbors.
Consulting with other neighbors in your apartment complex is a great way to see if the noise coming from the upstairs apartment is an isolated issue or not. If they have the same problem, you will have others who can corroborate your story and what you documented about your noisy upstairs neighbors.
There is strength in numbers, and having the other neighbors behind you gives you more juice, especially if you have to involve a property manager or building owner.
9. Get your property manager involved.
After you have tried tapping on the ceiling, talking to your neighbor, and using earplugs, your only other option may be to involve the property manager. If possible, you could address your concerns in an email. If that is not an option or does not work, escalate to a phone call.
It is essential to share with them any documentation you may have and the corroborated stories you have with your other neighbors in the complex. Good property managers will promptly handle the situation, and you will begin living in peace.
If it continues, ask your property manager what they suggest is the best course of action to get a resolution to the issue.
10. Call the police.
Calling the cops may be the only option to resolve the upstairs noise disturbances you have been dealing with. The police will show up and address the problem.
However, this could create some tension between you and your upstairs neighbors. Besides, you wouldn't want anyone to call the police on you, so try to have as much grace as possible with your loud neighbors before calling the authorities on them.
11. Pack up and move.
You have tried knocking on the ceiling, purchasing earplugs, and soundproofing the ceiling. Then you tried talking to your upstairs neighbors and going to management with documentation and neighbor corroboration. Afterward, you went a step further to contact the authorities.
You have exhausted all options, and you still have no hope of finding peace in your apartment. It may be time to pack up your belongings and move to where you can have peace.
Final Thoughts on 11 Steps to Deal with Upstairs Neighbors Stomping & Making Noise
Dealing with a loud upstairs neighbor can be nerve-racking, but I want to encourage you to take the steps necessary to have peace in your home. Rent is too high, and you pay too much of your hard-earned money per month to come home and not enjoy some of the fruit of your labor.
Many people have loud upstairs neighbors and do nothing about it. I hope that you choose a different solution. Because the situation can be handled, it comes down to how you decide to rectify it.
The saying goes, “You can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar…” meaning being friendly and polite when dealing with difficult people is better and more effective than being demanding and hostile.
Still, you should be firm and assertive… just not to the point of making others defensive. This can be useful to remember when speaking with your loud neighbor about the noise coming from their apartment, talking with apartment management about the problem, or contacting the police (if it comes to that).
Taking our frustrations out on our neighbors can create a hostile living situation. Moreover, expressing our feelings resentfully and aggressively to the property manager and law enforcement will not win us any brownie points with them either.
Because we come across as angry people, and in some ways, it leaves them to wonder if we may be overreacting about the whole thing.
So, try your best to choose the path of friendliness and peace with those outside your home so you can have peace within your home.
See some more articles about trying to get along with annoying people:
- 13 Steps to Get Along with Difficult People
- 60 Proven Ways to Make Someone Else Happy
- 27 Quick Ways to Simplify Your Life to Be Happier
- Pet Peeves List: 87 Common Things That Annoy People
