“What?” What do you mean I’m having a miscarriage?” I asked my gynecologist, frantically. More questions followed. “Are you sure?” “What’s wrong?” “Does the baby have a heartbeat?” I was shocked, confused, in denial, and heartbroken all at once.
I finally got pregnant and now I’m losing my baby. I thought I’d forever be broken by the experience. It was miscarriage words of encouragement from loved ones that helped fast-track my healing journey.
A pregnancy loss is a death of an unborn baby and an emotionally traumatic event. Weeks old, first trimester, second, or third, doesn’t matter. Whether the woman is already a mom or not, doesn’t matter.
Every pregnancy is unique and personal. Losing the baby is a painful and devastating loss either way, even if she’s had a miscarriage before.
If you’re not sure what are the right words to say to your wife, friend, daughter, sister, or co-worker who lost a baby in utero, that’s okay. I’ve created a list of statements, quotes, and phrases to comfort her as she tries to cope with the devastating loss.
Why Give Words of Encouragement?
Words of encouragement are words expressed to remind someone that they have what it takes to succeed. It could be letting someone know they have it in them to pass an exam, ace a job interview, or win a competition.
Such sentiments are just as powerful for someone experiencing a life challenge, setback, or crisis. They seem like mere words but have the capacity to make them feel better, have a positive outlook, or take steps to improve their situation.
In this case, the crisis is a miscarriage. By giving words of encouragement, you can help ease the emotional pain of loss and grief.
Why Are Miscarriage Words of Encouragement Important for Moms?
A woman who loses a baby needs all the love and emotional support she can get to prevent hopelessness or depression. As her partner, friend, or family member, you may be unsure of how to offer support. You may have cried with her, held her close, given her gifts, or tried distracting her with social activities. Nothing seems to work.
Telling her “You could try again,” or “You’re not the first or last woman to miscarry,” will definitely not help. Now is a time for empathy, compassion, sincerity, understanding, and finding the gentlest words to console her.
Have you tried giving her words of inspiration for someone who lost a baby? The right motivational word at the right time can have a positive impact on how she’s feeling currently. That is why inspirational quotes and greeting cards are such a big deal.
Encouraging statements provide the kind of comfort and benefits nothing else can. Those benefits include:
43 Inspiring Miscarriage Words of Encouragement to Comfort Her
1. I’m checking in to say my heart is just as heartbroken as yours after learning about your loss. I want to reassure you that I’m here if you need anything or just someone to listen.
2. I can only imagine what you’re feeling right now. Even though I may not have all the right words to make you feel better, I’m writing to let you know you’re in my thoughts and prayers.
3. Please know that there’s no right or wrong way to grieve this devastating loss. It’s your loss and your pain. Take as much time as you need to accept what has happened.
4. It’s easy to blame yourself for what happened. This isn’t your fault. I know you did everything you possibly could to have a healthy pregnancy.
5. I know how much having this baby meant to you. I don’t know what you’re feeling or how you’re coping. But I want you to know time brings understanding and healing.
I know how much having this baby meant to you. I don’t know what you’re feeling or how you’re coping. But I want you to know time brings understanding and healing.”
6. “The strongest person in the world is a grieving mother that wakes up and keeps going every day.” – Unknown
7. There’s nothing more devastating than losing a child. My heart hurts for you. No one deserves to have this experience.
8. A miscarriage doesn’t mean something is wrong with you. I hope you can find hope in knowing I delivered two healthy bouncing babies after two back-to-back miscarriages.
9. I share your sorrow. You’re not going through this tough time by yourself. I’m your shoulder to cry on at any time.
10. “Even those that never fully blossom bring beauty into the world.” – Unknown
11. I hope there comes a time when the memories of your sweet pea will inspire you to not give up.
12. I couldn’t find words that were perfect enough to console you. It’s because only you understand how you’re feeling. So I’m just going to say I love you and hope you find comfort in knowing this isn’t the end.
13. We don’t have to talk about it now. I’ll be right here when you’re ready.
14. “A miscarriage is not a failure, because a failure implies that it’s something you can ‘control.’ Miscarriages are beyond our control.” – Dr. Simone Whitmore
15. A miscarriage is an ordeal no mom should have to face. I pray that you find healing and acceptance in this time of grief.
16. “And grief is not something you complete, but rather, you endure. Grief is not a task to finish. And move on, but an element of yourself—An alteration of your being.” – Gwen Flowers
17. How are you feeling, really? It’s perfectly fine to not be okay. Embrace all of the emotions flooding your mind and body. Accept them for what they are and know that everything will be okay.
How are you feeling, really? It’s perfectly fine to not be okay. Embrace all of the emotions flooding your mind and body. Accept them for what they are and know that everything will be okay.”
18. There’s a light in your heart left by your little angel. Allow it to light your pathway to healing.
19. I know you are strong, but this is a journey you don’t have to walk alone. You have me to lean on.
20. “There is a unique pain that comes from preparing a place in your heart for a child that never comes.” – David Platt. My dear wife, only you understand this better than anyone else.
21. The fact that you are reading this and doing all you can to cope is evidence of your strength. I am confident your strength will guide you through.
22. It’s okay to cry, wail, and get angry. I don’t truly know how you’re feeling right now, but I understand why you’re sad. It’s going to be okay one day, no matter how long it takes.
23. I think these words are perfect for you as you try to come to terms with losing your little love. “You never arrived in my arms, but you will never leave my heart.” – Zoe Clark-Coates
24. I hope you’ll find comfort in knowing your little love is with the angels.
25. Mourning the loss of a miracle you never held but one you’ll always love has to be the hardest thing you’ve ever had to do.
26. Your baby’s love is imprinted on your heart and will remain there for eternity.
27. “Grief, I’ve learned, is really just love. It’s all the love you want to give, but cannot. All that unspent love gathers up in the corners of your eyes, the lump in your throat, and in that hollow part of your chest. Grief is just love with no place to go.” – Jamie Anderson
28. The reason you’re grieving is love–love for a child only you were fortunate to experience. Hold on to it, for it is that same love that will bring healing.
29. Cherish the time spent with your baby and the happy memories she left behind. In your quiet moments, whisper this: “Some say you are too painful to remember. I say you are too precious to forget.” – Unknown
30. I am truly sorry for your loss. Please let me know if there’s anything I can do to make things easier for you.
31. I imagine there’s an emptiness in your being that nothing else in the world can ever fill. Just know I’m by your side, so you won’t have to face grief alone.
I imagine there’s an emptiness in your being that nothing else in the world can ever fill. Just know I’m by your side, so you won’t have to face grief alone.”
32. “Life isn’t always about beating the waves. Sometimes, it’s about learning to breathe underwater.” – L.E. Bowman
33. If talking about your experience will help ease your pain, I’m here to listen.
34. Your little angel lives on in your heart.
35. I usually have the right words to say, but not for an experience so painful. So here’s to letting you know you can always lean on me in your time of grief.
36. “Grief is like the ocean; it comes on waves ebbing and flowing. Sometimes the water is calm, and sometimes it is overwhelming. All we can do is learn to swim.” – Vicki Harrison
37. Moms don’t get over losing a child. We just get better at accepting the reality of it. So don’t be hard on yourself and don’t allow anyone to rush your healing process.
38. “An interrupted pregnancy is something personal and private. There is always a story behind the loss of a child. Let us not dismiss that story but listen to it with love and compassion.” – Adriana Vandelinde
39. We will get through this together and come out stronger for it.
40. “It hurts because it matters.” – John Green. True as it is, I wish you never had to face this tragic loss. You mean everything to me and I wish I could take all of your pain away.
41. If I could make one wish that would come true, I would wish I could take all of your sorrow away.
42. I sincerely hope this quote will touch your heart and comfort you: “Babies lost in the womb were never touched by fear. They were never cold, never hungry, never alone, and importantly always knew love.” – Zoe Clark-Coates
43. I’m sending you these miscarriage words of encouragement for one reason only. To say that “Those we love don’t go away, they walk beside us every day…unseen, unheard, but always near, still loved, still missed, and very dear.” – Unknown
Final Thoughts on Miscarriage Words of Encouragement
I don’t know how I would’ve made it through that unspeakably terrible time without the comforting words and emotional support I received after not one, but two, miscarriages. Today, I’m a mom of multiple rainbow babies.
So don’t wait. Commit to helping these moms heal. Offer sympathy, inspiration, and hope in person… or via a note, message, email, or card to comfort a mom who’s struggling to cope with her loss.
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